you're beautiful hun!!

I had a conversation with a friend of mine last week(sorry for posting it late)and it was so interesting that he kept insisting that I should post it on my blog.What actually  happened was that a young lady was  roaming around the place we were seated.It wasn’t the fact she was walking all around looking clueless that caught our attention but her dressing and hairstyle that made us have this whole conversation.She was in a white short(abit too short for class)with a black tank top and her hair tied in a bun(may I add she had colored braids) but shaved on the sides(I can’t recall the name of that hairstyle but I believe Rihanna was the first artist I saw it with and in case you have listened to Demi Lovato’s  ‘nightingale’ song then you know where  I am getting at).

We both kept looking at her for a while then this is what followed:-

ME:My dad can never allow me to have colored braids!!

HIM:Why do ladies have to put on colored braids anyway?It makes them look weird.

ME:I think most ladies who put on colored braids,skimpy clothes,too much makeup and extremely bright colors are just in secured.They lack inner confidence but they do all this to appear confident so that they may not be judged.

HIM:Exactly!!put that sh*t on your blog…It’s for real!!You talk about life right?!then that’s a fact

ME:*LAUGHING*am going to post it tomorrow

By the time we were done with our conversation we had to attend another lecture but I kept think, is this real the case?I had watched a reality show where they would transform  ladies dressing codes and hairstyles and that day they were transforming a young lady(apparently she was a nurse).She was too extreme with colors from purple/green wigs and weaves to luminous clothes(skimpy ones!!) .She was in the show so that she may learn how to tone it down but in the process of letting go,she confessed how she felt ugly and fat. That all she wanted was to impress men and have them notice her.See under all that layer of make up and fake hair was a broken soul which was trying soo had to fit.I felt pity for her but she had taught me something.

Not all ladies that apply makeup or have colored hair are in-secured or lack self-esteem  NO-NO-NO!!that is not what am saying.I know somethings are just because of trends but we should take into account there are ladies out there who are bitter and angry at life,who are in low spirits and they feel rejected.They try soo hard to fit in society.Buy the latest trends,do the craziest things just to be noticed and loved.Men,ladies love attention(at least a listening ear) and someone to remind them how beautiful or how good they are.

So my dear ladies,this was specifically for you not to tarnish our name but to remind you that YOU ARE WONDERFUL,BEAUTIFUL,GORGEOUS and no one can change that fact except your creator.Don’t hide under all that makeup thinking you’re not beautiful enough trust me there is someone out there who believes you’re the most gorgeous creature on planet earth.

Someone once told me “you know you can put on dirty clothes,torn shoes,untidy hair but the confidence you exhibit will turn heads!!” ha-ha I know it was abit exaggerated but she just wanted to prove to me the power of confidence.

Here is what I believe Confidence(never go overboard) + self-esteem = BEAUTY

Hold your head up high hun!!you are BEAUTIFUL!!