inferiority complex

Hey my lovely ones! so this post has been written soo late at night (around 12.27am) with reasons and one is that I could not sleep because I have been think of this for the last two weeks. This is one of those posts which will be sooooooo long but I promise you it will be worth it. It has to be! That is why am up this late.Ooh and I should apologize to my male readers because this happens to be for the ladies….again!!but y’all know you can get your sisters, girlfriends or your mum(if you wish) to read this and hey maybe you might get some insight on some girl ‘code’ *wink*

So of late I have been hanging out with a bunch of wonderful friends and am glad there are so many lessons about life that am learning from them and this post was basically a ‘push’ from one of them, Njeri.Shout out to her for being an angel. You know everyone knows you are the sweetest creature on earth darling! a gift from heaven is what I can describe you. But this post is not about her, Its about inferiority in women.

The past few weeks, have made me feel soo hurt by the fact that  soo many ladies are letting the inferiority syndrome take control of their lives. I have witnessed ladies being abused by their so called men (not even in a light note)and still go back to them..I have seen ladies being beaten brutally but still going back to the same man…I have seen ladies begging for a man to love him yet he doesn’t!!Why do we let inferiority destroy our images ladies???I know maybe we might have trust issues or carry our burdens from our up-brings but that should not be the case.

I was watching Victoria’s lounge the other day and they were speaking on how women are enemies of themselves (I hope that was the correct topic) we never really support each other in our success, even in our weaknesses. I might see a friend in need but  I would not help them because I think she should fix her own issues. It also applies to success, we get soo jealous of another woman succeeding..Why????See this is the reason why there are some of our own who are in dare need but don’t know where to run to and they end up suffering from what I call ‘self-damage’. I know if I were to support so and so then they would not make such and such mistakes. We should be each other’s keeper. Sometimes our judgment is so clouded that we need a clear conscious to remind us of the right path and that is why there is you and me. To help each other.

I don’t understand why we should be enemies because of a guy yet I am 100% sure most guys will still be friends even if they were pursuing the same chic. Really absurd!! But don’t say it’s life cause it’s not…it’s a sick mentality that we have cultivated which we should stop!!!Let’s just be one, talk to another and for the record you are not a mat to beg or be stepped upon…if he doesn’t want you walk away,,,make it your  purpose  to live the life God created you to live. Don’t be limited by your upbringing, don’t say you will just get a man like your dad; an abuser, a drunkard, a player…don’t look for such a man. Look for a man who you don’t see all those ugly personalities in. As a matter of fact look for a man who is going to bring the very best out of you!!And yes he should be a man after God’s own heart.

So to end this long post, remind yourself you are greater than what you think..You can overcome and sometimes the tears maybe soo much but never feel you are under human being’s feet...you are only allowed to be down on your knees when you are with your Creator. It breaks my heart to see my fellow lady suffer so much because they force love. Love comes at its right time. Please stop forcing it and let God do his thing!!You just seat back and relax…he’s got a plan darling. I guess this is not only for you but am also speaking to myself as a reminder during this transition from a “want to experience it all’ to where I want to be. To be strong, hold my head up and stand up for another lady. So to any lady out there who we have crossed paths or offended  in any way this is my apology to you and know that I stand up for you.

In case you want to know more about relationship I recommend this book..’ power of pussy’ by Kara King..lool I know the title is abit outrageous but it’s an amazing book for women especially on relationships. I have been reading it and It has given me soo much insight and empowerment.

p/s:shout out to my special someone for always letting me be the best of me(and for being my biggest critic of all time)